Hey guys

My other chronic health problems are seborrhoeic dermatitis, depression, and chronic fatigue (i think they all started about a decade ago, around age 18-20.)

Im a 31 yo male and it feels really depressing to have these problems but around age 27 it really started to dig in while I was going through a stressful period. I got a new gf at the time and I realised I couldn't get it up with her like i used to with my last gf at age 21.

This was after a long period in monk mode where i was voluntary celibate so it was quite a shock to me. It's quite depressing to me because I'm surrounded by cute girls in my life but it's like ahh fuck it what's even the point.

For me I believe this goes together with something hormonal because I rarely feel "in the mood". It's nothing like my younger days. I usually feel a different mood... strained somehow, all the time, as I go about my days. Everything feels like a struggle, so sexuality is well off the table. I'm just not in that mood. Just being awake is a constant low grade drag. The only times I ever feel horny are when I drink booze or at certain times when I wake up in the middle of the night. In the past I would wake up horny as fuck and i would have to crank one out just to sleep. Now i wake up and I feel horny like the old days, maybe with a boner, but only for a few seconds, then it's gone.

Actually i can get it up if I'm really trying but there is barely any sensation there and it's more of a cope than anything. I lose my erection in about 15 seconds if I'm not stimulating it. I'm just... not in the mood.

In addition the odd times I do coom, my refractory period is way way longer now, it's like 3 or 4 days. I used to be able to get it up right after with my old gf but now it's a real struggle to even do it the first time. I'm just not in the mood, I can have a really beautiful girl naked in front of me and I'm not in the mood. I've tried this 6 or 7 times with different girls, not in the mood.

For you retainers, it's not the gooning, i went without gooning for 3 months last year and if anything, the problem got even worse.

I have tried many different diets and nothing helped, many supplements also did not help including D, B12, and zinc. I don't eat a lot of meat.

My T levels are normal, above average actually.
My iron levels were a bit low on last test.
My thyroid levels are very good, tsh about 1.0.
Liver enzymes normal.
H1C perfect.

IDK really, just shooting this out here. Maybe it's just anxiety, I have been under major life stress for so long now that I can barely remember the feeling of being secure and peaceful.

Is this normal? I feel like it's not normal or healthy.

I wonder if any of you have faced this problem and have got any suggestions.

No sex drive, Long refractory period and ED