nvm this was dumb
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nvm IDK i was too neurotic when I wrote this and its hella cringe
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@gg12 have you tried the carrot salad?
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Yeah that's definitely learned helplessness bro. You're right in the middle of it.
Best thing you could probably do short of moving out (which of course nowdays can be a monumental feat, especially young) is to start making money in a way that isn't too stressful like a part time barista job or something and using the money to make your own meals and snacks so don't have to rely on potentially unhealthy foods being given to you.
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@gg12 I agree with Milk Destroyer. You need a sense of agency in your life. Getting a job could help with that plus allow you to experiment with peaty sups to try and find something that works for you.
You seem to be putting the locus of control outside of yourself. You have a lot of agency to change your situation, not entirely but you can definitely put yourself into a better situation if you work on what you can control, which is yourself. If you get to a good place, you may be able to influence your family to see wisdom in changes that you make in your own life
Try getting sunlight and regular moderate exercise (long walks), mild lifting. Try following principles laid out by ray peat in podcasts. Also, try picking up a Bible if you want to connect with God. The ball is in your court. You can't fail (as long as you do a little each day to improve yourself).
You don't need to be perfect or even great. Just try to get a little better at improving your health and environment the best that you can each day. Life is not a race, and you don't have to have it all figured out. A little each day makes a big difference. You only have the power to change yourself.
These are all just keys to get you out of the learned helplessness mindset. Be well
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@secondkelping wow that was a beautiful read thank you for some insight. Your right I do have somewhat of a locus of control
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@Milk-Destroyer Thanks for the insight I will act accordingly
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@the_black_jew muh carrot salad muh Iām high iq but act dumb, stop annoying me on my posts
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xD
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Maybe try GABA and supplemental dextrose loading.
Don't fall into the next victim trap set up for the noniniated when looking for god.@the_black_jew said:
@gg12 have you tried the carrot salad?
This made me properly laugh. So cynical in playing naive and invested.
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@CrumblingCookie said in How do I not play the victim?:
This made me properly laugh. So cynical in playing naive and invested.
The peaty equivalent to "Have you tried confidence?"Valid angle beside a laugh to be fair. Gut permeability, endotoxin and peristalsis issues have coincided with psychological changes in my broscience self experiments.