Why it's hard to overcome a bad childhood. Dr. Lipton explains that 95% of our operational programming is completed by age 7
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I have had traumas all my life on all levels.
After several years of studying bioenergetics and intensive experimentation, while working on the brain, I have come to the point where I am immune to disturbing thoughts and other people's opinions and thoughts like steel.
There is a bubble of inner resilience around me, instead of a bubble made up of my environment, where any part that moves in it will make a hole in the bubble.
Everything is possible and in retrospect, it's not difficult at all when someone with sufficient experience and knowledge explains exactly what to do and why - and that's what I'm doing today for others.
A significant part of the process is to understand how the human brain works, both in terms of beliefs and thoughts and also in terms of neurotransmitters and hormones, because once you understand this, you can understand the motive of each person's actions.
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@sharko said in Why it's hard to overcome a bad childhood. Dr. Lipton explains that 95% of our operational programming is completed by age 7:
I have had traumas all my life on all levels.
After several years of studying bioenergetics and intensive experimentation, while working on the brain, I have come to the point where I am immune to disturbing thoughts and other people's opinions and thoughts like steel.
There is a bubble of inner resilience around me, instead of a bubble made up of my environment, where any part that moves in it will make a hole in the bubble.
Everything is possible and in retrospect, it's not difficult at all when someone with sufficient experience and knowledge explains exactly what to do and why - and that's what I'm doing today for others.
A significant part of the process is to understand how the human brain works, both in terms of beliefs and thoughts and also in terms of neurotransmitters and hormones, because once you understand this, you can understand the motive of each person's actions.
It's terrific that you've managed so much progress and I am certain there are people here like myself who would be interested in what was most useful to get to where you are.
In my case I had attempted to block out my past and focus on things like chemicals, hormones, environmental toxins, food, light and exercise but ironically ignoring my past was not helpful to moving forward because it should be involved in your search for solutions.
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I had the best childhood my poor parents could ever give me, not a single traumatic memory, I was a happy kid, but a bit unstimulated. My puberty years were so bad I was mentally and physically stunted, now I'm nothing like my old self.
Based on this experience, I'd say you can recover from a bad childhood just as you can completely destroy the benefits of a very good childhood, but who knows, it's easier to destroy something than to fix it, especially when it comes to biology.
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I believe it must be a strong combination of "hormone games" (and neurotransmitters) to understand at a high level their effect on our feelings and thoughts, while constantly examining our thinking and feelings, until we reach a point where we simply understand well enough how the human brain works and then every action that another person has performed or is performing, you can understand where it comes from and not link it to you.
If anything, feel sorry for that person and even try to help him. And of course it is required at the same time to achieve an optimal metabolic rate. Without an optimal metabolic rate and low serotonin, emotion will easily take over us
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@sharko Nicely put. Zen, if I were to encapsulate it in one word.
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@Insomniac said in Why it's hard to overcome a bad childhood. Dr. Lipton explains that 95% of our operational programming is completed by age 7:
In my case I had attempted to block out my past and focus on things like chemicals, hormones, environmental toxins, food, light and exercise but ironically ignoring my past was not helpful to moving forward because it should be involved in your search for solutions.
In my experience "getting sceletons out of the closet" i.e. understanding my traumas and accepting them was a beneficial moment/process in my life. It got me solid ground to try to get past them to some extent and try to build on them... Like being more in control of myself (with the help of psychology and biology) and understanding better how humans perceive reality. It helped me to stop being a normie/midwit i.e get out of the Matrix
Moreover, for example, I used my tendencies for anxiety and pessimistic outlook to become a specialist in risk management, etc. -
@Jennifer said in Why it's hard to overcome a bad childhood. Dr. Lipton explains that 95% of our operational programming is completed by age 7:
We can lead a horse to water with the intention of having it drink, but what if it doesn’t believe it can drink because all the other horses don’t believe they can drink so they don’t? Thank God for all the exceptions breaking the rule.
Yes, is so well said. I noticed that some of my friends are willing to improve and some will do everything to avoid facing their demons... and stay being a (traumatized) normie - with their mantra - next time I will do the same but better...
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@yerrag Exactly
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@Kvirion said in Why it's hard to overcome a bad childhood. Dr. Lipton explains that 95% of our operational programming is completed by age 7:
@Jennifer said in Why it's hard to overcome a bad childhood. Dr. Lipton explains that 95% of our operational programming is completed by age 7:
We can lead a horse to water with the intention of having it drink, but what if it doesn’t believe it can drink because all the other horses don’t believe they can drink so they don’t? Thank God for all the exceptions breaking the rule.
Yes, is so well said. I noticed that some of my friends are willing to improve and some will do everything to avoid facing their demons... and stay being a (traumatized) normie - with their mantra - next time I will do the same but better...
I’ve noticed the same thing among my friends and family. As much as I wish it weren’t the case, I can understand their resistance to facing trauma. Not only is it painful to relive, it can be overwhelming when starting the process of healing only to realize that it’s not just our own trauma we are having to overcome, but generational and societal trauma too so I applaud anyone who attempts it because they aren’t just healing themselves, they’re healing the collective. I like to think of it as reweaving the web of life. Each of us are a strand in it so what we do to ourselves we do to the web and what we do to the web we do to ourselves.
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@Insomniac said in Why it's hard to overcome a bad childhood. Dr. Lipton explains that 95% of our operational programming is completed by age 7:
In my case I had attempted to block out my past and focus on things like chemicals, hormones, environmental toxins, food, light and exercise but ironically ignoring my past was not helpful to moving forward because it should be involved in your search for solutions.
Same here. I focused on all the same things and aside from exercise, they only served as a distraction. What helped me most was adopting a self-love practice and release work. First, I got a picture of myself as a little girl and made a promise to her that I would do better by her, now that I knew better, and would have her back no matter what. Then I grieved. I grieved everything I had lost like my innocence, a childhood and my best friend. If you’ve ever grieved, you know that it comes on in waves of emotions and mine was mostly rage that needed to be released or else consume me—trauma got my past, but I was damned if it was getting my future—so I expressed it through non-destructive ways such as punching my mattress, screaming in the shower and climbing the stairs in my house. I think the gentleness of feminine energy is so healing, but sometimes healing requires the proactive and goal-oriented nature of masculine energy so climbing the stairs with the goal of climbing mountains again, something I hadn’t been able to do since my spine collapsed, was a powerful way of transmuting the energy of trauma.
I had a log on the old Ray Peat Forum where I documented my recovery, shared very personal things about myself like the molestation, and I had written up a final update I never posted before leaving that touched on this very topic. Coming from someone who is on the other side of trauma, perhaps my words will be of comfort to those still in the thick of it. If we have the courage to see our healing through to the end, trauma reveals to us what we’re made of. There is a reason why we suppress things, and when you’ve stacked up enough fed-ups and gathered the kind of strength it takes to face the phantom—your trauma—you regain your power and see the force to be reckoned with that you were designed to be. This place is not for cowards, and having survived hell, you are dangerous. You are a threat to the status quo. You are no longer easily abused, manipulated or quick to blame yourself. You are also a beacon of light for others who are where you once were. You aren’t a victim, you’re a miracle.
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It's a difficult topic and s underrepresented in these forums so everyone posting is doing a good deed. And you can see from the posts that it is possible to overcome if you are conscious of the issue.
Unfortunately the people who have had the worst experience will have the longest odds because it requires a level functioning to address the issue properly (and competent parents would help and that's often the issue). Images of heroin addicts are popping into my head as I write this.
It's a myth that people outgrow these things. You'll be reliving all these issues for the rest of your life. I've heard people in their 90s complaining about their parents or still insecure because their sister got more love and is more successful. They'll remember the trauma even after they've forgotten their own name.
I have read thousands and thousands of post over the years. I've heard very little discussion about childhoods or seen people suggest therapy. It's bizarre but I think industry drives interest and that's my only explanation.
But there are probably biological changes as well. A holistic approach makes the most sense. The odds are against you finding happiness so do it all.
https://bioenergetic.forum/topic/1785/childhood-stress-causes-muscle-dysfunction-in-adulthood-by-damaging-oxidative-metabolism?_=1728954025098Childhood stress causes muscle dysfunction in adulthood by damaging oxidative metabolism
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The molestation I experienced began around age 5 and went on for years. I remember in great detail what happened, what I was thinking while it was happening, but it doesn’t carry with it the energetic weight it used to. I feel nothing now when I think of it and the one who abused me. I’m not angry, resentful, distrustful of all people. I am, however, more aware of the read I get on people, sensing their energy, and I trust my instincts. I can share in detail an example if anyone thinks it would be beneficial to the discussion, but I’ve avoided being assaulted as an adult many times because I don’t write my feelings/intuition off as an unwarranted side-effect of being abused, something that happens far too often because of common beliefs, and assumptions made, about women who have suffered abuse. Jokes about women with “daddy issues” comes to mind.
My family life was and still is challenging, but that’s life. There will always be challenges in relationships, however, the difference now is how I respond to them. Now I’m honest about my feelings—for better or worse, I don’t hold back—and I’m able to let harmful relationships go. I thought for sure that I was going to take my “shameful” secret with me to my grave and would forever fear my words, associating them with death because I grew up with a mother who was suicidal and understandably she was easily triggered, but my filter broke when my spine collapsed in my late 20s and my truth came out. The physical pain of the disease and subsequent injury were unimaginable, but I know it happened for me, and for those I have helped because of it.
