@BearWithMe said in Unfulfilled sexual dreams and desires causing extreme depression?:
@Jennifer said in Unfulfilled sexual dreams and desires causing extreme depression?:
@BearWithMe, with all due respect, it’s not me who lacks clarity. Please set aside your relationship for a moment and focus on you. You say you have a can't sleep, can't work, can't leave the house, can't even do laundry level of depression and that every time you see a person that's your type, it is like having a blade pushed through your stomach. This is you, yourself, happier than ever?
Going by what you’ve shared, your desires and depression aren’t health related, you wouldn’t be breaking your wedding vows—you even say a polyamorous relationship would be beneficial to your wife—and there are polyamorous women who don’t catch feelings—it’s purely physical—so as long as it’s consensual and both adults upfront with their intentions, what’s immoral about it?
Not to make light of your situation, but I can’t help but find the humor in a naturally monogamous woman questioning a polyamorous man about his hang-up with polyamory. The way I see it, you can either let your suppressed burning desires consume you or reconcile your conflicting beliefs about polyamory being beneficial, while at the same time immoral, and pursue them. If someone develops feelings, they learn a valuable lesson about themself.
I have no hang-ups about polyamory whatsoever. I'm questioning the morality of casual sex. I would feel exactly the same if I was single and was considering having causual sex with single woman. I made this perfectly clear too.
Being "happier than ever" and being depressed is not mutually exclusive. Being "happier than ever" doesn't imply happiness. Depression and happiness is also not mutually exclusive, believe it or not. Also "we are happier than ever" have a different meaning than "I am happer than ever"
Thank you for your contribution to my thread but I'm not going to respond to any more of your messages, Jennifer
It was clear from your very first post, but thank you for taking the time to clarify anyway. You’re welcome.